CONFLICTS


Conflicts are a part and parcel of life. Human mind is never at peace. Conflicts hold an indispensable place in the mind vessel. It is common to everyone and everyone has to face them. Conflict can be any disagreement with our own selves or between two or more individuals. Conflicts is basically a clash of interest. Conflicts may vary according to the situation but, it’s always a part of one’s life and society. There are many areas of conflicts like social conflicts, relationship conflicts, workplace conflicts, motivational conflicts, internal conflicts, interpersonal conflicts etc.

Social conflicts– It arises when the beliefs, values, desires health by one individual or group are opposed by another individual or group. It can emerge between parents and children, friends, colleagues at work, etc. Social conflicts are a part of every relationship and social interaction. Whenever we run into a conflicting situation, it usually arouses negative emotions, anxiety and tensions. We just feel like avoiding the conflicts but the problem is that we can’t avoid them completely. It will always exist whether it’s as huge and serious as workplace conflict or something small all like who gets the last slice of pizza. Conflicts can bring the worst out of a person.

Relationship conflicts- life is all about relationships whether it’s personal relationship or a professional relationship. Anyone who has interactions with other people is going to experience conflict. It’s an inescapable aspect of human relationship, weather its parent child relationship, friendships or romantic relationships. It usually arises because of the difference in individual’s personalities or because of negative emotional interactions. For example I was sharing an apartment and my roommate and I started having conflicts because I am a really neat person and I kept the apartment tidy but she was always Messy . The mess irritated me and it created tension between us. Relationship conflict can arise due to disagreement between two people within a relationship. No two individuals are same. When we are unable to understand this, it leads to conflicts. For example conflicts with fiancé over whom to invite to the wedding. These conflicts will either make relationship strong or destroy them.

Motivational conflicts- These conflicts are a source of frustration. Some of the earliest experimental psychologists studied conflicts and found four major types of conflicts:

• Approach-approach conflict – Let’s say you got two internships that you want to do but they are scheduled for the same time. This is the approach-approach conflict, when a person is faced with two attractive alternators but can only choose one.

• Avoidance-avoidance conflict – Let’s say a person got the job that he extremely dislikes but has to do it because otherwise he will lose his only income. Or a student has to do his math assignment or he will be punished. Avoidance-avoidance conflicts involve two negative goals and the person has to choose one to avoid the other undesirable alternative. One feels like avoiding these conflicts, desiring to leave both the situations but it’s not an option. We do face conflicts in our life which are unavoidable. It generates many intense emotions. We all face things we do not want to do but must do or face less desirable alternative.

• Approach-avoidance conflicts – Suppose you got a job that you have always desired but they are offering you a very less pay or you have to travel for 2 hours to reach the workplace. In this type of conflicts a person is both attracted and repelled by the same goal object. There are drawbacks always clung to the things that we often rigorously desire to possess. To cite my own personal example, I earnestly wanted to work as an intern with a company. I attended to the pre-requisites required for the same – took a written test, got interviewed and got selected. However I could not benefit myself monetarily .It was an unavoidable conflict for me and I chose to work for free just to gain experience. A person decides to approach it because of the positive side but, as it is approached the negative side becomes stronger. It is one of the most difficult conflicts to be resolved and it causes a lot of frustration. In such cases people reach the goal but much more slowly then they would have without the negative part. Even after the goal is reached, the individual may feel uneasy and frustrated because of the negative attached to it. Emotions like fear, anger, resentment are likely to a accompany approach-avoidance conflict.

• Double approach-avoidance conflicts – A person having to choose between working but feeling guilty for not spending time with family versus being with family but not making any money. It is a forced choice between two approach-avoidance conflicts. One must choose between both the options, each of which has advantages and disadvantages. Many of our life’s major decisions involve double or multiple approach-avoidance conflicts.


In life we also face a lot of inner conflicts, occurring in situations where half of our mind says, “it’s great, let’s do it” and the other half says, “what if you fail since it really scary. What if this happens? What is that happens?” . Like I want to go to Australia for my further studies but there is a fear that what if it’ll turn out to be a waste of a huge amount of my parent’s money. We always have options but we struggle to choose between them. Struggling with conflicts can only cause frustration and can lead to mental health problems. It’s better to resolve conflicts as soon as they start to occur. Sometimes you are not able to find the right thing to do or decide what to choose. Someone’s opinion can always help. It’s always better to take help from someone experience. If you don’t have anyone to help you choose and you don’t find anyone cling to for help, you can lean on a social app called “WeHeal”.


It is an app aiming to help people who are going through difficult times and confusing situations. It is an anonymous chat platform where we can share anything that is making us feel heavy and stressed this app basically provides help to people what are facing some issues and trouble in their life. The person is free to share whatever problem he or she is facing. Any person who is in a conflicting situation and is not able to find a solution can take the help of the healers in this app. You can chat anonymously to the healers and share your situation. The healers will listen to you patiently, understand your situation and suggest you a solution. There are also inspirational short stories and quotes which you can read to be inspired. The application will keep you anonymous and this will makes it easy for you to pour your heart out. If you’re having any conflicts related to studies, career, important decisions and you are burdened with problems, and need someone to listen and care, and you want to feel light, you can refer to this application. If you want to clear your mind and feel less stressed and want some answers to your conflicts, then you can lean on to this app and it’s healers who will help you go through your conflicting and stressful situations. It’s always better to share our conflicts with someone than to bear them alone.

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Download the app –http://tinyurl.com/weheal

DEALING WITH STRESS

Living life can be hard, confusing, weird and well, stressful. Stress is basically our body’s response to certain situations . Hans Selye, the father of modern stress research, defined stress as “the non specific response of the body to any demand.” A situation that is stressful for you, may not be stressful for me. Stress is totally subjective. Everyone’s response to a stressful situation depends on his/her experiences and how he perceived the event (positively or negatively). If one has a positive attitude and social support to deal with the crisis he or she will feel less stressed. Let me give you an instance from my life, a situation which is very common to us all. I had an exam the next day and I did not study really well for it. I studied till 2 a.m. in the night but was unable to concentrate anymore because my brain was literally exhausted, I decided to sleep. I set an alarm of 6:00 a.m. in the morning thinking that I will wake up and start studying so that I would at least pass my exam. But stress of the exam didn’t let me sleep. I started to think about situations that if I will fail or not get the required marks, what will I do then. I started blaming myself for fooling around the whole day and for not studying anything before. My alarm rang at 6:00 a.m. I woke up stressed, I didn’t feel like eating, my stomach got upset which made me more tense. I barely made it in time to my college and It turned out that I have forgotten my admit card. I started crying not knowing what to do. Basically when you are stressed your thinking gets cloudy and that is what happened with me. So I just sat there for a minute, took some deep breaths and called my mum and asked her to send the photos of my admit card. I went to give my exam 15 minutes late and when I opened my question paper my heart pounded, my hands started sweating and my mind went blank. I felt so angry with myself at that moment but I realized that I needed to calm down and think about the answers. It was not like I have not studied at all. I did study a bit. Turns out I knew half of the answers and it made me a feel less stressed. I promised to not do this for the next exam. But these type of promises are meant to be broken, right? By giving this example from my life, I explained how badly stress can affect our mind and body. We all go through such situations in our life. In some cases when we are exposed to a stressful situation for a long time and are not able to cope with it, it becomes a gateway to serious mental health problems like anxiety, depression, etc. I recently read about a study which showed that younger people who routinely face heavy workloads and extreme time pressure on the job are more likely to experience major depressive disorder and generalized anxiety disorder.

Life poses challenges all the time – losing someone close, not having anyone to care for us, being in an abusive relationship, night time jobs, shortage of money, examinations, etc. All of us try to meet these challenges in our own ways. Some of us succeed while others get stuck in such life situations. Much of it depends on how we view and handle these challenges. If handled properly, stress increases the probability of one’s survival. It’s just like electricity. It gives us energy, increases our arousal and affects our performances. And if it’s too high, it may damage appliances (body) and fuse bulbs (exhaust our mind). Let’s see you have a dance performance in an hour. You see the crowd of the audience and experience a certain amount of stress. If you take it positively and it made your performance better, then it’s positive stress, also known as eustress. If it ruined your performance because you got anxious on seeing the crowd, then its negative stress, which we feel most of the time. Some most important sources of psychological stress are frustration, conflicts, internal and social pressures, heartbreak, losing a loved one, moving away from home, daily life hassles, noisy and quarrelsome surroundings, traumatic events etc. Stress can also be caused because of lack of nutritious diet and when we fail to get enough sleep. Stress ruins our sleeping patterns, increases skin problems, heart rate and blood pressure, and messes with our digestion causing heartburn, indigestion, vomiting, nausea and diarrhea. Stress decreases our confidence, increases mood swings, tension and erratic behavior and cause some serious emotional problems.

So now the question arises how can we manage stress?

Stress is a silent killer and there are a few ways to tackle it :

• First of all start eating a healthy diet and performing daily exercise and yoga. A balanced diet can lift one’s mood and give more energy. It strengthens the immune system and make one feel better to cope with stress of life. Exercise can provide release of negative energy is caused by stress.

• Practice meditation and relaxation techniques. It is a skill that reduces symptoms of stress and relaxes the body. Whenever in a stressful situation, try taking deep breaths which is used to calm the mind and relax the body.

• Lastly, being socially connected helps us to deal better with stress. Everyone need some social support without being judged in any situation. No support makes the situation worse and difficult to cope with. I recently read a study which said that people who have supportive relationships have lower levels of stress than people who have cold and unsupportive relationships full of conflicts. It’s also better find someone experienced to talk to you. We can feel light after sharing our stressful situation with someone.

If we feel that people will judge us for the situation that we are in instead of helping us, then there is an app – “WeHeal”.

It is a social app with an intention to help people to heal, just as the name suggests. It is an anonymous chat platform where we can share anything that is making us feel heavy and stressed. This app basically provides help to people who are facing some issues and troubles in their life. The person is free to share whatever problem he or she is facing. Whether they need to confess something or they need some support or someone has gone through a heartbreak or are having issues in studies, are burdened by problems, need someone to listen and care, and make them feel light and happy. He/she can share the story with a community of users of the app who are the healers. The healers provide solutions to their problems and the way to cope with them. The application keeps them anonymous and this makes it easy for them to pour their heart out without being judged. There are also inspirational short stories, quotes and experiences to encourage them. There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. If one doesn’t have someone to lean on or share anything with someone, but you want to clear your mind and feel less stressed and want some answers to your conflicts, then you can lean on to this app and it’s healers who will help you go through your stressful situations. However, that can be so overbearing that it seems impossible to move on, like, the death of a loved one or overwhelming feelings of anxiety, it’s important you know that help is available to you. For serious problems , it’ll be the right decision to seek a councellor or a therapist.

It is better to share our burdens with someone than carrying those burdens alone. A stress-free mind leads to a happy life.

Follow WeHeal

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Facebook –http://facebook.com/weheal

Download the app –http://tinyurl.com/weheal

WeHeal App Review


Sometimes we all feel like sharing all our problems, feelings and burdens. We just want to talk to someone without being judged and to share things anonymously with someone who understands, has experience and will help us to get through tough times. While searching for a way to do this, I came across this app – “WeHeal” It is a social app with an intention to help people to heal, just as the name suggests. It is an anonymous chat platform where you can share anything that is making you feel heavy and stressed. Here comes the in depth review of this beautiful application.


SO HOW EXACTLY DOES THIS APP HELP PEOPLE?

This app basically provides help to people who are facing some issues and troubles in their life. The person is free to share whatever problem he or she is facing. Whether they need to confess something or they need some support or someone has gone through a heartbreak or are having issues in studies, are burdened by problems, need someone to listen and care, and make them feel light and happy, this is the app for them. He/she can share the story with a community of users of the app who are the healers. The healers provide solutions to their problems and the way to cope with them. The application keeps them anonymous and this makes it easy for them to pour their heart out without being judged. This helps them to overcome problems of all kinds without having to share their identity. There are also inspirational short stories, quotes and experiences to encourage them.


SIGNING UP AND LOGGING IN

Signing up for this is pretty simple. First screen that’ll pop up after the installation of the app will be for you to register. It is possible through your phone number. Then you will be asked to set up your profile by putting in the basic details about yourself including your name, age and gender. The signing up process and setting up a new profile is not at all wearisome. It’s quite easy and short. And by being time saving it prevents the user from losing interest before even using the app.

FEATURES OF THIS APPLICATION

WeHeal offers features like anonymous chat, writing anonymous letters, writing quotes to help other going through their difficult times. You can also reply to help other people in need and to motivate them. The person sharing their problems receives replies from people around the world who are willing to help others through their experience.

  • •Anonymous Chat–  This feature provides a quick and instant help.  You can use this anonymous chat feature to connect with people across the globe to have a conversation instantly. For the chat, instead of matching two random users, the app sends notifications to all the online users when someone clicks on the chat button.
  • • Writing Anonymous letters to share your feelings and concerns is another good feature. You can write about any situation in a letter which would be completely anonymous.
  • • There is also a feature where you can write quotes and short stories to inspire and help others to go through their difficult times.
  • • You can write replies to help others. Moving through difficult situations helps us gain a lot of experience which we can use to help others who are going through difficult times. Sharing experiences and giving advice is made all the more easy with the WeHeal app. You can view letters written by people near and far describing their problems which you can reply to.
  • • There are a few more interesting features in the application . There is a mood detector which is basically a quiz that asks a few questions and then makes an assumption of the user’s current mood. It is called Happiness quiz.
  • • The application also provides a meditation session to calm your mind and make you feel relaxed.
  • • There is also a mini-game to improve your patience  level. They even check your stress level before starting the game and the meditation session.


    • IS THIS APPLICATION PAID OR UNPAID ?

    The WeHeal app is free of cost in the playstore. I have not observed any in-app purchase options yet, so I believe all the services are totally free for everyone.

    BENEFICIAL FACTORS
    WeHeal‘s unique display system makes it impossible to copy or take a screenshot from your device. You cannot even screen record anything. This makes the app safer for users. In addition to this, there are no advertisements to bother the users.


    SIMILAR APPLICATIONS

    There are a few applications where people can confess anonymously and chat with others. These applications include WHISPER,  SECRET – SPEAK FREELY, etc . But there is plenty of inappropriate content in apps like whisper and secret, especially for teenagers using them. All too often, whispers are sexual. Some use Whisper to seek others for sexual activities using the app’s geo-location “nearby” feature which makes it unsafe for users. Strong language and drug and alcohol references are also common .