Fighting depression caused by pressure to excel in Studies

Students face all types of pressures, challenges and situations causing stress. Successful situations may cause negative emotions such as sadness, frustration, hopelessness, etc. These emotions usually pass within a few days. If not, then it can be an indication of depression.

There are many potential causes for stress faced by students, which, if not treated timely can lead to depression.One of the main cause can be fear of failure, also known as achievement anxiety. It is not only common among the low achievers, but also the high achievers. They might have enormous pressure to succeed constantly. Pressure from parents to be the best sometimes turns out to be dangerous for children. It’s normal for every parents to want their child to excel in every field, but sometimes the pressure to perform well makes the children suffer some serious consequences. High pressure parents may constantly insist their children to keep on practicing and performing well in every competition. This much high amount of pressure and stress makes way for anxiety, depression or other serious mental health issues. Parents might pressure their children by comparing their results with other children or cousins and rebuking them for low grades. Some parents even might be abusive not just physically but also verbally. This constant pressure can lower their self esteem and make them feel like they are worthless. Pressure of upcoming exams, sleep deprivation and unmanageable workload can give a lot of stress to students. Pressure to succeed prevents students from relaxing and enjoying their student life.

Prejudice and biased behavior by teachers on the basis of grades can add to the cause of depression in students. It lowers their confidence thereby making the weaker lot hesitant in putting up questions. Not only this, some students also develop inferior complexities while also struggling to maintain their grades. Teachers biased attitude also leads to unhealthy competition among the students whereby the lot with lower grade undergoes an uninvited struggle to raise their academic standards.

SIGNS OF DEPRESSION IN STUDENTS :

Depression altogether affects the thoughts, actions and behaviour a person.

Constant anxiety
Feeling hopeless and helpless
Overeating for eating too little
Suicidal thoughts
Sleeping too much or too little
Fatigue
Frequent headaches, nausea and unexplained physical pain
Feeling of sadness and guilt
Not showing up to classes

The students may start feeling that they are worthless, and that they might not amount to anything. They may feel that they are a failure and that they can’t achieve anything in life. They feel like no one understands fore care about them and their feelings. They might feel that everyone just cares about their academic results.Depression is not just caused by chemical imbalance in brain or other biological factors, but psychological and social factors also plays a huge role. Facing tons of pressure of studies, biasness on the basis of marks and lack of social and emotional support can contribute largely to depression.How To Overcome :

Talk to someone : it’s important to share your feeling with people you trust or you think might understand. If the parents are abusive in anyway or due to any other problem you are not able to share your feelings with them, then it’s alright to seek help from a school/College councellor. There is nothing wrong in asking for help. In fact it is a courageous thing. If you just want to talk and you don’t have anyone then you can even take help from an app called WeHeal.

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.weheal.weheal

It isn’t social app which is available on Android. Through this app people can share their current feelings and concerns anonymously either in a personal chat or through open letters. The solution to the problems will be given by the healers of this app who are currently the users and have dealt with or experienced the same situations. The healers will listen to you, understand you, and give you possible solutions to your problems. If you just want to be heard and understood, then this app might be helpful. Privacy is respected in this app, since you will be kept anonymous. The app also prevents everyone from taking screenshot or screen recording. Anonymous chat feature will help you to talk personally about your situation.There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, happiness quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.But if you are experiencing symptoms like constant worrying, sleeplessness, unexplained emotional changes, losing interest in everything and feeling of worthlessness or helplessness, for 3 weeks or more, you should make an appointment to see a counselor or a psychologist.

Stay away from toxic people : stay away from people who make you feel unworthy. Spend time with people who encourage you and care for you.
Get involved in activities you enjoy used to enjoy : do things that make you or used to make you happy, even though it seems impossible. Opt for a new hobby aur watch any funny series or comedy movie.
Healthy habits and self care : Eat balanced diet, take at least 8 hours of sleep, do any physical activity like exercise, walking, yoga, running or join any sports. These activities release feel-good hormones called in endorphins, which lifts one’s mood.
Take some time out : make friends and don’t shut yourself out. Spend some time with them. Force yourself to go out with them relax and try to have fun.

Whether its parents wanting their children to excel or students desire to be the best, both have dire consequences. If you’re dealing with this, you can share their problems, talk to the healers and feel light, understood and happy, through the WeHeal app.

Dealing with Heartbreak

“The heart will break, but broken live on.” – Lord Byron

Heartbreak is something terrible and unfortunately we all experience it at some times in our life. The feeling of heartbreak usually accompanies us when we lose someone or something we loved, may it be a romantic relationship, friendship, a family member, job or a pet. Whatever the reason maybe, the pain is real and we all want to avoid it. For me personally, I was heartbroken when my dogs were taken away from me. I was really close to them. The first 2 weeks were terrible for me. Though I still can’t get over the fact that they are gone, it was much more difficult when it happened. I couldn’t sleep or eat properly and I just used to cry everytime remembering and seeing everything related to them.

Heartbreak can cause a lot of stress, which can affect us both emotionally and physically. It may take days, weeks, months or even years to recover from it.Heartbreak can even trigger psychological shock, also called emotional shock and acute stress reaction. Emotional shock is when you experience a rush of strong emotions and the corresponding physical reaction in response to a stressful event like heartbreak. Emotional shock doesn’t just cause anxiety and fear but also physical reactions like sleeplessness, racing heart, headache, upset stomach, nausea, shortness of breath, restlessness and lack of energy. It causes both mental and physical exhaustion.

Heartbreak can have serious effects which may immensely affect our daily life. Heartbreak can even lead to mental health disorders like anxiety, chronic stress, depression or even post traumatic stress disorders. If you’re having symptoms like thinking about it all the time , blaming yourself for everything , suicidal thoughts (thinking you can’t live without them) , feeling worthless and unlovable after a breakup from a romantic relationship , avoiding loved ones (friends and family) , stopped enjoying things you used to love , sleeplessness, etc even after a long time of the heartbreaking event, then you may seek help.

DEALING WITH A HEARTBREAK

“Of course! It takes a lot of strength to mend a broken heart. Channelising energies into your work helps, but also to be able to accept situations for what they are instead of questioning them helps immensely.” – Deepika Padukone

It’s not easy to deal with a heartbreak, but it becomes less difficult when you accept it, and decide to take care of yourself, the situation and your life. The saying “time heals everything” is true, but you need motivation, self care and proper emotional support simultaneously.

Understand and accept your emotions : Do not bottle up your feelings inside and try to carry on a brave face. It’s Okay to feel sad and hurt and it is okay to cry. If we keep on avoiding these emotions, it’ll keep on giving more pain.
Social and emotional support : surround yourself with positive, understanding and supportive people. Higher the level of social support, lower the level of pain. Spend time with family and friends, who make you feel loved and worthy.
Vent out (share your emotions) : It’s important to get things off your chest. Talk to a trusted friend or a family member and tell them how you feel. Vent the anger and frustration. It’s good to pour your heart out. If you don’t have that person, then take help of some apps. WeHeal is an amazing app , which helps to anonymously share whatever we are feeling and going through. It is available on android.

You can download it – https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.weheal.weheal

WeHeal aims at helping people to heal, just as the name suggests. It is an anonymous chat platform where we can share anything that is making us feel heavy and stressed. This app basically provides help to people who are facing some issues and troubles in their life. This app allows you to anonymously share your problems through open letters. The healers who are the users of the app will read them and reply to them. They help you see things through a different perspective and to find solutions. Since the app keeps you anonymous, it becomes easy for you to pour your heart out without the fear of being judged. If you don’t have someone to lean on or share what you’re going through, you can rely to this app. This app allows people to share anything that is troubling them, whether it is related to career, jobs, relationships, or you’re feeling demotivated and confused. Anonymous chat feature will help you to talk personally about your situation.

There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, happiness quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.

Write it out : write what you’re feeling. It helps you process emotions and think clearly.
Exercise : Indulge in physical activities. Join sports or go for a walk or a run . Do exercise and yoga. They boost mood and energy.
Healthy diet : eat a healthy and balanced diet as a good diet boosts immune system and it helps in fighting stress.
Help others : doing something for others helps boost your self esteem and it also distracts you. Doing good also releases feel-good hormones, which is something you would want right now. So volunteer and find ways to help people. With WeHeal app, you can also help others by replying to their situations and help them find solutions and ways to go through it.
Don’t blame yourself : it’s not right to blame yourself for everything. Don’t attach negative qualities with yourself. Think and write positive things about yourself.

We all experience heartbreak and it’s important to know how to deal with it. One should never lose hope and belief in oneself. We cannot avoid heartbreak but we can prepare ourself to cope with it.

What does being depressed actually feel like?

People usually confuse depression with feelings such as loneliness, sadness or misery. Depression is not similar to feeling down or to be sad. Although they are symptoms of depression, but it is much more severe. We experience these normal emotions (sadness, frustration, anger, guilt) as a response to life events. They last for a few hours, days or even for a week but not more than that. Where as symptoms of depression lasts for months or even years. Depression is a serious mental health disorder which disrupts a person’s life. If one is feeling at least 5 of the symptoms of depression such as low mood, loss of interest in everything, feeling of worthlessness and excessive guilt, restlessness or tiredness, recurrent feelings and thoughts of suicide and death, disturbed sleep (too little or too much), loss or increase in appetite, change in body weight, inability to think clearly, agitation, loss of energy, greatly slowed behaviour, for at least two consecutive weeks, then it will be characterized as depression.

The symptoms, causes and experience of depression is different for every individual. Even though the the experience varies from person to person, there are some experiences which are common to all.

Some people feel like there is no Joy left in their life. He or she may not enjoy the things that once give them pleasure. They face difficulty in making decisions, reading or even watching movies or series (they may not understand what is going on in it). They not able to concentrate or focus on anything. This may even strain their work and relationship.

Some feel devoid of hope and happiness, like there’s nothing left. Depression make people feel like there’s no way left to make them feel better again. They may feel worthless and useless, like a complete failure. The main find negativity in every event and are unable to see positive qualities in themselves. Some people feel so exhausted that even getting out of bed seems impossible. The feel drained even after getting enough sleep. For some people it’s impossible even to sleep.

Although, some people with depression don’t feel like eating anything, others can’t stay away from it. They overeat and keep on craving for unhealthy food. For some depression feels like they are living in a state of fear and grief, but there is no origin of these feelings. Sometimes they may feel like screaming and crying out loud and sometimes they feel like they can never speak again. In depression you feel like a half alive ghost. You don’t feel like a normal living thing. Some even become suicidal, thinking of death as an escape.

Dealing with depression is something terrible, if you ask those who have experienced it. Sometimes you feel like talking to people and share what you are experiencing, but the fear of being judged stops you from doing that. This creates a feeling of suffocation. You feel like people will laugh at you or may not understand you, so you think that it’s better to be quiet and suffer alone. It’s okay to have such fears and it is important to know that you are not alone. For situations like these, you can even take help of apps. There is an app called WeHeal.

It is a social application, which has an intention to help people heal, just like the name suggests. It is an anonymous chat platform, we can discuss what ever is troubling you. The healers who are basically the uses of the app, will listen to you, understand you and help you with your situation. Since you are anonymous, it will become easier for you to say what ever you want to, share everything you are experiencing, without the fear of being judged. You can confess anything that is killing you inside or ask anything regarding to issues related to studies, career, relationships, heartbreak or any other problem. It’s really not healthy to keep things inside you. Sharing our feelings and emotions is one of the most important thing which helps in preventing stress and fighting depression. There is nothing wrong in asking for help. There is nothing to be ashamed of in sharing your feelings which can trigger depression or make it worse. Sharing emotions help us to restore equilibrium and to let go of negative emotions that bottles up inside us and cause more harm to us.

It’s important to let your emotions out and this app may help you in that.

You can download WeHeal – https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.weheal.weheal

There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.

Normal people also feel sad and lonely, not to the extent that a depressed person feels but yes they do. The app is there with you. It also gives you the opportunity to help other people who are facing troubles by replying to them and providing solutions to their issues with the help of our experience. Research shows that helping others and making others happy, gives more pleasure and boosts mood. It’s sad that inspite of such terrible experiences, depression is not taken seriously. It’s time to normalise it and make it easier for the person who is actually going through it. Timely treatment is required, but just because of the stigmas and judgements attached to it, people don’t come out and share it. The WeHeal app has initiated a great service for normalising mental health issues.

Peer Pressure

Isn’t it difficult to keep on pretending to be someone else just to fit in? Doesn’t it bother you that you cannot act or show who you really are? Why do we pretend? What is this? And most importantly what can we do? Peer pressure is something that is often not noticed but has a great impact on a person’s life. It is something very common in in teenagers and young adults. It affects the thinking and behaviour of youth to a great extent. It can impact there dressing sense, music, choices, even life decisions. We all need acceptance and importance. The fear “what if I don’t fit in?” rules are mind. We often forget that everyone is different and that’s what makes us special. We usually behave according to the expectations of the other group members. This is called “conformity”. And this makes us do things that we necessarily don’t want to. The reason maybe that people feel uncomfortable if they are considered “different” . This “different” may lead to disapproval and dislike by others, which none of us desire. Wanting to be a part of something and to feel accepted can put pressure on us and make us act in a different way. This leads us to do things that we don’t want to do, and not do things that we actually want to do.Peer pressure can be both negative and positive. It is positive when it leads to your growth, when your friends stop you from doing something that you will later regret, when you participate in competitions or join an internship, started working hard because your friend asked you to. That is positive peer pressure. To cite my own personal example, during my high school my friends used to you ask me to study and scored good and forcefully made me participate in in cultural functions. Is benefited me as I scored the highest marks in my whole life and I gained more confidence.But not everyone experiences positive peer pressure. Some might choose to do things that normally they wouldn’t be interested in like smoking, drinking, experimenting drugs, stealing, bullying and teasing, skipping school or bunking college, dieting or body building, taking part in sexual activities, breaking rules, wearing clothes that you don’t prefer, buying something you can’t afford, wearing only designer or branded clothes, etc.Studies show that peer pressure or influence is strongest in early to middle adolescence and that Boys are more likely to give in to peer pressure than girls. People with lower self esteem, and who think that they can never have friends are more likely to be negatively influenced by peers. But they need to believe that they are important and they don’t deserve these toxic friends.Now that everyone has mobile phones and accounts on social media platforms, we can also witness a rise in online peer pressure.

The 5 kinds of peer pressures that happen online:

Sending nude photos or “body shots”
Sexting
Moving a conversation from an approved app to another, sometimes encrypted, app
Portraying a “perfect” image of your life

These have led to more serious problems.There’s a big difference between being yourself and fitting in. Doing things just to fit in will never make you happy, cause excessive stress and lower your self esteem. It’s not right if it starts disrupting your mental health.SOME WARNING SIGNS ARE :

low mood, feelings of hopelessness
Feeling unwanted
Frustration and unnecessary aggression
sudden change in behaviour, often for no obvious reason
trouble falling asleep, sleeping too much or too little
loss of appetite or over-eating
reluctant to go out with friends
withdrawal from activities that you used to like
You feel like you want to give up, or you start feeling that life is not worth living.

If you happen to witness changes in your behavior or actions as stated above, it indicates that you are succumbing to the peer pressure. It’s a wake up call for you . It’s never too late.WHAT CAN YOU DO?

First of all love, accept and respect who you are.
Secondly, Learn to say NO. It’s difficult but it’s important. Say it calmly and in a way that convinces them. If your “friends” are not able to understand that, then it’s time to change them. Hang out with people who share your interests or those who accepts you the way you are, in a group where you do not need to pretend to be someone else. Learn how how to be assertive.
Lastly, Talk to someone about your situation . If you are feeling threatened, hurt or pressured, talk to a family member or someone you think will understand and help you. If you think that they will not understand you, or react negatively to yours situation, then you can help from apps where you can share your problems and get solutions. WeHeal aap is one of them.

WeHeal is an Android app which aims to heal people. The services provided by the app justifies the name. This app allows you to anonymously share your problems through open letters. The healers (who are the users) provide solutions to your problems. You can even have one to one personal chats with the healers where you can talk about your situation with them. You will be kept anonymous. No one can even take screenshots or do screen recording, which makes it safer to have your chat. It becomes easier to deal with problems when you have someone who understands them. If you’re dealing with overwhelming feelings of pressure, loneliness, stress or anxiety due to peer pressure, it’s important for you to know that help is available to you. This app also allows you to confess something or talk to someone if you need some emotional support or need help to deal with a heartbreak or are having issues in studies, career, relationships or are burdened by problems. Sharing problems and having someone to listen and care, will make you feel light and happy.The app also has three inbuilt modes which provide you with meditation sessions, happiness quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.You are brave enough to deal with it, maybe you just need a little push and support. If You need help. You need to free yourself and You need to talk about it, then you can take help from WeHeal app.Remember that peer pressure is something normal and you are not alone.Download the WeHeal app – http://tinyurl.com/weheal

LONELINESS DURING LOCKDOWN

Stuck in your home alone? Feeling lonely while social distancing? Missing your family and friends? Well, you are not alone. Millions of us are experiencing this during the coronavirus pandemic. Being apart from family and friends for such a long time has become difficult for all of us. When the lockdown was ordered, I myself didn’t get the chance to get back to my family and stay with them. I tried to, but all the interstate transportation was cancelled. It’s been more than a month now that I have been living in my flat all by myself. I am really grateful for the technology in our times that is helping us to stay connected with our loved ones. Zoom calls, skyping, WhatsApp calling etc. have greatly helped us to go through this daily. But it’s not the same. Explain difficult to adapt to this “new normal”. I always loved the “me time” as it helped me to clear my head, explore myself and love myself more, but this much amount of me time is doing no good. Well, excess of everything is bad. I’m now realising how free I was.

Missing those get togethers, chit chats while eating together and outing with friends and family is something we all are experiencing. These feelings are completely normal but can immensely affect our mental health. This feeling of loneliness can increase stress and anxiety and can be worse for someone who is dealing with depression. Loneliness can give way to further more feelings like helplessness, sadness, hopelessness,etc. Yes, the circumstances have affected our loneliness, but the thoughts prevailing in our minds and how we are handling it, affects it more than the circumstances itself. These thoughts determine our loneliness. These negative thoughts increases our insecurity and make us feel unlovable and unwanted. These thoughts makes it more difficult for us to reach out and call others for help, increasing the feeling of loneliness. We can reduce our loneliness to great extent if we deal with these negative thoughts. We can do this by making ourselves believe that we will get over these hard times and that things will get better.

SO, WHAT CAN WE DO?

Communicate regularly with your friends and family through calls, video calls, and sms.
If you are feeling anxious, helpless and suffocated , talk about it with your friend or a family member you trust. If you feel that you may make them worried about you, then you can also take help of apps like WeHeal.

http://tinyurl.com/weheal

WeHeal is an Android app which aims to heal people just as the names suggests. The services provided by the app justifies the name. This app allows you to anonymously share your problems through open letters. The healers (who are the users) provide solutions to your problems. You can even have one to one personal chats with the healers where you can talk about your problems with them. You will be kept anonymous. No one can even take screenshots or do screen recording, which makes it safer to have your chat. It becomes easier to deal with problems when you have someone who understands them. Whether you need to confess something or you need some emotional support or if you need help to deal with a heartbreak or are having issues in studies, career, relationships or are burdened by problems, need someone to listen and care, and make you feel light and happy, you can take help from this app. If you’re dealing with overwhelming feelings of loneliness, stress or anxiety, it’s important for you to know that help is available to you. The app also has three inbuilt modes which provide you with meditation sessions, happiness quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also 6 inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.

Stay away from stress: Don’t make yourself indulge in activities that will give you more stress. Limit watching news and reading about the pandemic as you may feel overwhelmed.
Practice yoga, exercise and basic workout routines. Our mind and body are connected and that is why physical health will contribute a lot to our mental health. Go for little walks either on your roof or around your neighbourhood.
If you are feeling useless, like you have lost your purpose, find a new hobby (painting, dancing, writing, etc) , online courses, or apply for any internship. This may provide you with a sense of purpose.
Play online games with friends and family or even strangers.
Do something that makes you happy. Staying away from things and people that irritates you and make you feel bad is the best option, not just during the pandemic but in every stage of your life.
Distract distract yourself from the negativity. Start reading a new book, watch movies of the genre you love or start a new series. Binge watch friends or the office if you want to feel stressfree. If you if you haven’t watched any of this, then now is the best time to start. Watch TED talks or other interesting videos on YouTube.
Practice gratitude : even in midst of great difficulties, we can always find things for which we are truly grateful. Appreciate and thank every person who are helping you through this situation, your family, friends and the doctors and nurses and every other person who are risking their lives just to save ours. Give gratitude for every little thing that you are blessed to have. Studies have proved that when you thank others you love yourself more, you feel happy and contented with yourself.
Take at least 8 hours of sleep.
Help others : you may know other people who’s mental health is affected negatively during this pandemic. Talk to them and provide your support to them. Through WeHeal app, you can even help other people by replying to them and helping them get through their tough situations through your experience. It is proved that we feel more positive when we help someone. We feel happy about what we are doing and that we are making a difference in someone’s life.

It can be extremely difficult to stay positive with so much going around you, but it’s not impossible to do so. This coronavirus pandemic is filled with challenges and uncertainty. We have no idea when all of this will get over. All we can do is deal courageously with it. It’s a great time to explore ourself more and learn some new things. This time period has also made us realise the importance of our family, friends and our freedom, which we take for granted. This will get over soon. Just remember that a dark night can never defeat a sunrise.

DEPRESSION, the word which is often misunderstood

“Depression”- a term which is casually used by most of us. “The lecture today was so depressing”, “my boyfriend is not talking to me properly, I’m feeling depressed” etc. In day to day life, we often use the term depression to refer to normal feelings after significant loss, breakup of relationship or failure to attain a significant goal. While you think that it’s just a “word”, you don’t realize how serious it is. The term depression is casually used by us to refer to grief, frustration, sadness, loneliness or disappointment. Yes, these negative feelings should be taken seriously, since there is a possibility that they can lead to depression, but not everyone with these feelings has depression. Casual use of this term is sometimes because of lack of knowledge about it. People need to understand the difference between the two, these negative feelings that we go through most of the time, may go away in a few days but not depression. Depression is a serious mental illness. According to WHO, more than 264 million people of all ages suffer from depression globally. It is different from our short lived emotional response to daily stress. The person dealing with depression suffers a great deal of mental and physical exhaustion. Up to 15% of patients with severe depression die from suicide. It is something that should not be taken lightly. It is a mental health disease which results from complex interaction of biological, psychological and social factors. It is not something that someone can just get over with.
We sometimes confuse depression with feelings of grief or sadness. We are all humans and it’s normal for us to feel sad, disappointed or frustrated due to certain situations, weather its failing in an exam, losing a job, having argument with spouse, monetary problems etc. We do get over these feelings when we witness a change in our circumstances. It can take a few hours, few days and sometimes, even a week, but not more than that. Whereas in depression, these feelings become overwhelming, cause physical symptoms, and last for a long period of time (for 2 consecutive weeks and more). Depression keeps you from leading a normal, active life. It interferes with your work, relationships, and other daily tasks. It does not get over just because you wanted it to. Depression is more than just sadness. People with depression may experience symptoms like :

• Low mood

• Loss of interest in everything

• Feeling of worthlessness and excessive guilt

• Restlessness or tiredness

• Recurrent feelings and thoughts of suicide and death

• Disturbed sleep (too little or too much)

• Loss or increase in appetite

• Change in body weight.

• Inability to think clearly

• Agitation

• Loss of energy

• Greatly slowed behaviour

According to psychiatry guidelines, if you feel like you have at least 5 of these symptoms, you qualify for a diagnosis of depression. Depending on the number and extremity of these symptoms, depression can be categorized as mild moderate and severe. According to National institute of mental health, it takes the average person suffering with mental illness over 10 years to ask for help. The good thing is that depression is totally treatable. there are various effective treatments like therapies, medications which usually go side by side. Medications usually increase the amount of serotonin in our brain. Some studies shows that less amount of serotonin or the feel good chemical in our brain is one of the biological cause of depression. They have been many researches but none have been successful in finding the main cause of depression.
Talking about depression can help a lot. Research shows that asking someone about suicidal thoughts reduces their suicide risk. The cause of the stigma attached to mental illness it becomes difficult for people suffering from it to talk about it and ask for help. Open conversation about mental health is something really important to be discussed about.

THE FIGHT

It is possible to prevent another episode of depression. Dealing with depression is difficult since you become completely devoid of energy, hope and motivation. You start feeling drained and empty. Just thinking about these things seems tough but it’s not impossible. There are a few ways that could help you to fight depression and maybe prevent them :

• Indulging in exercising and yoga : when you exercise you release chemicals like endorphins, which can boost mood . Yoga helps you to stay calm and bring more positive feelings. You can also join some sport.

• Eating healthy : when you eat a balanced and nutritious diet, your mental and physical health experiences a boost. Eating foods with high fat and sugar can increase stress and symptoms of depression.

• Staying away from stress : stress is a common cause of depression. There are many ways to reduce stress like meditating, exercising, eating healthy and being socially connected. Having a strong social support system is important in dealing with stress and other mental health problems. Regular interactions with family and friends is really important. Learning to let things go also helps in reducing stress.

•Sharing how you feel : sharing our feelings and emotions is one of the most important thing which helps in preventing stress and fighting depression. It’s always better to share your problems with someone who you think will understand you and provide you with help. There is nothing wrong in asking for help. There is nothing to be ashamed of to share your story or experiences triggering depression. Sharing emotions help us to restore equilibrium, think clearly and most importantly, to let go of negative emotions that are bottling up inside us. There is always this fear, what is the person doesn’t understand us, makes fun of our situation, judge us, or not able to provide us with what we need in return. It’s okay to have these fears and there is a solution to every problem. There is a social application WeHeal which has an intention to help people heal, just like the name suggests. It is an anonymous chat platform, we can discuss what ever is troubling you. The healers who are basically the uses of the app, will listen to you, understand you and help you with your situation. Since you are anonymous, it will become easier for you to say what ever you want to. This app provides a non judgement environment. You can confess anything or ask anything regarding to your studies, career, relationships, heartbreak or anything. It’s really not healthy keep things inside you. It’s important to let them out and this app may help you in that.

You can download WeHeal – http://tinyurl.com/weheal .

Give it a try. Maybe you’ll find the answers.
There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you. It also gives you the opportunity to help other people who are facing troubles by replying to them and providing solutions to their issues with the help of our experience.

• Keeping the giant hand difference from toxic people : people who lower self esteem, make us feel bad about ourselves, doesn’t care about us should be thrown out of life.

• Avoid alcohol and smoking

• Getting at least 8 hours of sleep

• Dealing with triggering situations: like death anniversary , or coming across a particular person or a group. Prepare yourself for the situation and make yourself believe that you will get through it. Take help from a friend or a close one .

• Seek a therapist when needed : no when your symptoms have increased and take help of a mental health counselor or your therapist.

It’s high time that we take depression seriously. It’s really sad that despite its immense impact on individuals, depression is not taken seriously. Depression has no cure but it is treatable especially when it’s recognised and properly diagnosed. Timely help is needed and it can only be done if the person does not feel ashamed and seek help. For this we need to talk more openly about mental health. It’s a great step by the WeHeal app to break this stigma and talk about mental health.

VENTING OUT EMOTIONS

Ever felt so angry ? So frustrated ? Felt like sharing? Felt like shouting it all out? telling them how you feel? That’s venting. Venting means to let out strong and negative emotions, saying whatever that is coming to your mind. Life generate some level of stress daily. People sometimes are so frustrating that we feel like breaking their face. Stress, anger, frustration and other such negative emotions are unavoidable and if not released, then they can create more problems. Venting is all about a quick release of emotions . The nature of venting is quick brief and intense. It helps us process the negative feelings that the situation has triggered. Venting is never about a particular person, it’s about a situation. A clear, positive and stressfree mind is always a healthy mind. Things doesn’t always go our way. It’s better to let things out than to bottle them inside, creating a pressure cooker that can explode anytime. Venting out emotions like sadness, anxiety, anger and frustration eases our mind and body and relieves tension. It makes us feel light. if we hold our negative emotions inside for a long time, we may unavoidably loose our composure in an inappropriate way, like in front of our parents, boss, loved ones, etc. It’s better to vent out beforehand, to prevent such disastrous situations like getting fired or hurting your loved ones.

Venting out grants us an immediate relief and comfort. It helps us to restore our balance. When we vent our negative emotions to someone, we regain control on our feelings and see things with a different perspective. This can only be done if we have got the right person to assist us. Ought to be careful in choosing the person to whom we are venting. It feels great to have someone who you will listen and understand are situation which caused this venting, and shows care and support in return. The person can give you a fresh perspective to see things, since he/she is not a part of the situation. The anger and frustration in our mind ,during such situations, does not allow us to think clearly. At this time the trustable person that we are confiding to, can provide useful suggestions which we were not able to think of.

But every good thing has a downside . If we keep on venting our negative feelings to that one and only person, he/she may get agitated. They may feel that we are using them as our dumping ground and that we do not consider their feelings. Sometimes we directly vent to the person who was the reason of our frustration in the first place. Well that is not a good decision. They will activate their defence mode, and will obviously retaliate with more negative feelings. This will in turn worsen our feelings. It’s best to choose the person that we trust the most. Let’s say, for instance, you vent out your frustration to a person, and third person for the shares your information with others and well in no time it’s the new gossip. How would you feel? More frustrated, of course. Doing it with the wrong person can backfire. So what can we really do? Talk to someone who will not judge us and maybe not even know us but will support and understand us. Is it really possible? Yes, it is now, through a social application – WeHeal, which is available on android.

WeHeal has an intention to help people to heal, just as the name suggests. It is an anonymous chat platform where we can share anything that is making us feel heavy and stressed. This app basically provides help to people who are facing some issues and troubles in their life. The person is free to share whatever problem he or she is facing. We can vent all our frustration here. The healers (the users of the app) will listen to you, understand you and provide you a different perspective and solutions. The application will keep you totally anonymous and this will make it easy for you to pour your heart out without being judged. If one doesn’t have someone to lean on or share anything with someone, but you want to share things and well, vent your emotions, you can rely to this app. This app allows people to share anything that is troubling them, whether it is related to career, jobs, relationships, or you’re feeling demotivated and confusion. Anonymous chat feature will help you to talk personally about your situation. There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you. WeHeal app also gives us the opportunity to help other people who are facing troubles by replying to them and providing solutions to the issues they are facing with the help of our experience.
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MENTAL HEALTH

WHAT IS MENTAL HEALTH?

Mental health is the level of psychological (cognitive, behavioral and emotional) well being and therefore it affects how we think, feel and act. World Health Organization (WHO), defines mental health as “a state of well-being in which the individual realises his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community”.

WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT- PHYSICAL HEALTH OR MENTAL HEALTH?

It actually bothers me that physical health is given much more attention than mental health, even though both are the essentials of life. In fact a healthy mind leads to a healthy life, since all our thoughts are governed by our mind and these thoughts dictate our actions. Most people just work on their physical appearances and physical health but give least consideration to their mental health and emotional health. Many people have beaming physical appearance but are rotting inside. To be happy we need to have a good connection between a mind and body. Exercising regularly , staying positive, meditating and opting for a healthy lifestyle not only keeps us physically healthy but also keeps our mind and emotions in check. These things help us to develop a control on our mind, thoughts ,emotions and on our life. These two terms (mind and body) go hand in hand and are equally important. A proper balance between these two is a must for happy and youthful life .

MENTAL ILLNESS

Some people define mental health as the absence of mental illness. Mental illness includes wide range of conditions that affect a person’s cognitive, emotional and behavioural wellbeing. It affects many people in this world and can be very dangerous, if not given attention can make the individual indulge in self harm, Suicide, and substance abuse. There are a lot of stigmas attached to mental illness which prevents people to open up and get help when they need it the most. Hiding it from everyone only makes it worse. Allowing yourself to get help is the best thing you could do for yourself. There is nothing to be ashamed of. Mental illness can happen to anyone irrespective of their age, gender, class, religion, status, race, sexual orientation or background. Some forms of mental illness are mild, some are moderate and some are sever, affecting our daily life. Serious mental disorders include bipolar disorder, depressive disorder and schizophrenia. The need to be treated as soon as they are diagnosed. Mental health disorders are treatable. Help is available anywhere and anytime in the form of psychologists, mental health counsellors and psychiatrists.

5 warning signs of mental illness, especially when you have two or more of these symptoms:

1. Long-lasting sadness or irritability
2. Extremely high and low moods
3. Excessive fear, worry, or anxiety
4. Social withdrawal
5. Dramatic changes in eating or sleeping habits.

HOW TO MAINTAIN MENTAL HEALTH?

There are a few ways to keep your mind healthy in the first place:

– staying positive : thinking positively and staying away from negative thoughts and people is helpful.

–regular exercise and yoga : getting physically active keeps our mind fresh and healthy. It helps to turn the negative energy enter positive energy.

– eating healthy and balanced diet : healthy diet strengthens the immune system and gives more energy to cope up with the stresses of life.

– practicing meditation : is a skill which helps the body to relax, stay calm and is a great way to fight mental illness.

– getting enough sleep : lack of sleep can cause unfavorable effects on both mental and physical health.

– socially connecting with others and helping others : humans are social beings and everyone loves to be cared and supported. Connecting with others help us relieve stress and problems faced in daily life. It’s important to share your problems with someone. Talking to someone about stressful issues may help you to go through your problem, finding ways to tackle it, release the build up tension, and see the situation more clearly and with others perspectives. It helps you know that you are not alone. If you feel like no one will listen or understand you, will judge you for your situation, then you can take help from an app called WeHeal.

WeHeal is an android application that helps people move through difficult times and help people when they need it the most. It’s an anonymous chat platform where you can share whatever is troubling you or causing stress. The person is free to share anything that is troubling them, whether it is related to career, jobs, relationships,or you’re feeling demotivated and confusion. The healers (who are the users of the app) will help you find solutions and make through your problems. WeHeal provides you a judgement free zone. If you do not have someone to lean on or share anything, but you want to clear your mind and feel less stressed and want some answers to your conflicts, then you can lean on to this app and it’s healers who will help you go through your stressful situations. Anonymous chat feature will help you to talk personally about your situation. There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.

Lastly, helping other also has a positive affect on your mental health. You feel more positive and happy when you help others. Research have proved that doing something good for others, whether big or small, not only feels good but also does good to us. Recent research suggests yet another way our well-being can benefit from practicing pro-social behavior: helping others regulate their emotions helps us regulate our own emotions, decreases symptoms of depression and ultimately, improves our emotional well-being. Two common ways to help others regulate their emotions are acceptance (showing empathy) and reappraisal (helping others think about their situation in a different way). WeHeal app gives you the opportunity to help other people who are facing troubles by replying to them and providing solutions to the issues they are facing with the help of your experience.
It’s important for everyone to take care of their mental health, since it has direct connection to happiness. So take care and stay happy .

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MOTIVATION

WHAT IS MOTIVATION?

Motivation is the general willingness to do things. It is the desire to act to perform the goal or the activity. Motivation is required to set and attain one’s objective but it’s not possible to always be motivated. Motivation is what keeps us moving weather its fetching a glass of water when thirsty or studying before an exam. It is the driving force behind human actions. We do realize that simply wishing for something is not enough. We have to work towards it and it can only be done if we have the motivation to do it. There are two types of motivation:

EXTRINSIC MOTIVATION : If an individual is getting motivated from external sources like praise, salary, rewards, money, social recognition, etc., then it’s extrinsic motivation, also called the external motivation.

INTRINSIC MOTIVATION : if an individual is motivated by internal desires like enjoyment, interest, happiness, fulfillment, etc., then it’s intrinsic motivation.

There are some days when we feel demotivated. We have a lack of direction, which acts as a blockage in achievement of our goals. There are many reasons to feel demotivated, such as :

• The characteristics of the task– how simple, difficult or lengthy the task is.

• Interest of individual– The individual may only be motivated if the task is interesting for him or stimulates his curiosity. Uninteresting tasks may lead to procrastination.

• Lack of confidence and self doubt– when we doubt our ability to accomplish our goal, we become incapable to take action.

• Low mood– lack of motivation can be a symptom of low mood.

If the low mood and lack of motivation prevails for more than 2 years along with a few symptoms of depression, then it might be a sign of serious mental health issue called dysthymia. It’s better to consult a psychologist or a mental health counselor in such situation.

For each one of us it’s always easy and much more interesting to watch just one more episode, or to scroll through our Instagram feeds or watching senseless videos on YouTube. But studying and working is always the most difficult task and we just can’t find the motivation to do them. As we approach nearer to our exams and deadlines of work, there is a sudden rise of panic in our hearts but we still can’t get a hold on to motivation to complete such tasks. Procrastination is the first and foremost thing that separates us from motivation. We have so much work to do, and so many chapters to study but these endless, boring and tiring tasks makes us overwhelmed and we start wasting our time with a panic-stricken mind. Sounds familiar? Yes? That’s procrastination, both the cause and the result of lack of motivation. Well, you are not alone.

It’s easy to concentrate and instill a bit of motivation and start the task, but it’s easier to lose the motivation to continue it. We fail to achieve the goals because our motivation bids us goodbye. Once we are no longer motivated, procrastination kicks in. The usual causes of procrastination are:

• You have decided that the task is boring.

• You have convinced yourself that the task is beyond your capabilities.

• You are waiting for the “perfect” time to start.

• The task has become so immense that now you don’t know where to start.

We just can’t deny the above mentioned causes. We all have experienced them. To cite my own personal example, my exam was the next day and I was left with the entire syllabus to study. I called my classmates and asked how much they have done and it wasn’t a surprise to me that they had almost completed the syllabus. But this too failed to Spark motivation inside me. Procrastination was conquering my mind and was not allowing me to prepare for my exam. The only source of motivation at that time was my friend who used to talk me out of panic and successfully motivated me to study with really weird ways of her own.

Lack of motivation has been more common during the times of the corona crisis. The lockdown has forced everyone to sit at home. It would have been better if there was no work to do but employees are asked to work from home and students are asked to study at home. The most common reason for lacking motivation and dedicatedly following the slogan “Netflix and chill”, is that we are way too comfortable at our home. Since there is no workplace environment and strict studying environment, it has become difficult to concentrate on doing the given tasks. Studying and working together with friends and social recognition were the important motivators which are missing in the current situation. Self isolation is also causing anxiety, panic, self doubt and worries inside us which ads on to lack of motivation. The deadline to complete work is closed and we still have no motivation to do the work and it is creating a lot of panic and anxiety inside us. What should we do? Let’s start by taking deep breaths. It will help us to calm down a little bit. The second step is to divide the task and as you complete the divided parts of the task one by one, reward yourself. Sometimes talking to someone helps us to ease our anxiety and helps us to carry on work with motivation, like in my case it was my friend who used to motivate me during such situations, as I stated before. But these important people aren’t always available for us. For that time, there is an app called “WeHeal” .

WeHeal is a social application intending to help people who are dealing with tough situation, whether they are feeling demotivated, having problems in career, studies or relationships, facing confusion, not able to deal with heartbreak etc. Whatever the issue may be, the healers (the users) of this app will help you find solution and go through the terrible situations. The app provides a non judgmental environment where you can anonymously share your problem or chat with the healers. Since the application keeps you anonymous, becomes easier to pour your heart out without being judged. There are also inspirational stories, quotations and experiences shared by the users to keep you motivated. You can even help others by replying to their problems and providing solutions to the issues of others with the help of your experience. There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. Privacy is respected the most in this app. No one is allowed to take screenshot or screen record anything. Remember that you are not alone.

There is nothing bad and embarrassing in sharing your problems with someone and asking for their help. It will only help you in clearing your mind and make you feel light and happy. Isn’t that the only thing we want?

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ANXIETY

Remember how our heart starts beating fast, worries and tensions conquers mind, nervousness starts terrorizing us before or during a difficult situation? THAT’S ANXIETY. The American Psychological Association (APA) defines anxiety as, “an emotion characterized by feelings of tension, worried thoughts and physical changes like increased blood pressure”. Experiencing anxiety can be normal in stressful situations like performing before an audience, first day of school or college, giving interview, or giving exams. It’s a feeling of fear and uneasiness about what’s going to happen next. The causes and symptoms of anxiety are subjective to everyone. My anxiety symptoms might be different from yours. The situations triggering my anxiety might be different from your situations. Some common symptoms of anxiety are increased heart rate, rapid breathing, trouble concentrating, restlessness, sleeplessness, nervousness, and feeling of worry and fear. It’s not unusual to experience anxiety before any big event or an important decisions. It is an expected and a common response to situations which might be stressful to an individual. The feeling of anxiousness usually passes away once the stressful situation is over. But when this anxious feelings happen without any reason and don’t go away for months, interfering and causing problems in our daily life, then it might be the sign of anxiety disorder.

I too experience anxiety in many situations, usually before giving an exam, giving an interview and before making stage appearances. I get anxious even before taking some important decisions that will bring a specific change in my life. I found out a few strategies to help me find relief from this anxious feeling. These are:

• Following some relaxing techniques like deep breathing and meditating. They help to calm our mind and make us feel less anxious. Deep breathing minimises the symptoms.

• Doing something that brings us comfort and divert our mind from the feeling of anxiety. It can be anything like watching a favorite movie or a favorite TV show or reading a book flipping through magazines.

• Scribbling your feelings and emotions in your diary.

• Channelizing your energy into exercise and working out.

• Eating a balanced and healthy diet. A healthy diet helps in lifting the mood and provide more energy.

• Reach out to someone you are comfortable talking to and talk whatever you feel like, weather the feelings that you are experiencing right now or something you did or saw. Good relationships are one of the best ways to feel better. Talking to a friend or a family member will help to boost your mood. Finding a reliable source of support and encouragement is always helpful during anxiety. People dealing with anxiety want to be heard and understood. They want someone to treat them with understanding and compassion.

If you don’t have someone reliable to talk to, then you can rely on the WeHeal App. It is an application that seeks to tackle mental health problems. It is an anonymous chat platform where we can share our current feelings and problems. Dealing with anxiety is not easy but if we have someone to listen and understand us, then it becomes way more easier.

Through this app people can share their current feelings and concerns anonymously either in a personal chat or publically. The solution to the problems will be given by the healers of this app who are currently the users and have dealt with or experienced the same situations. They will provide a non judgement zone where you can share what’s going on in your mind. The healers will give you possible solutions to your problems. If you just want to be heard and understood, then this app might be helpful. Mental issues are not paid much attention nowadays. It still considered a taboo in our country. People facing mental health issues are not able to express themselves which is causing most of the trouble. With the help of WeHeal App, people going through such issues can share their problems, talk to the healers and feel light, understood and happy. The healers will provide moral support to boost your confidence. Privacy is respected the most in this app, since you will be kept anonymous. Anonymous chat feature will help you to talk personally about your situation. There are also three inbuilt features which provide you with meditation sessions, psychological quiz that will detect your mood, and a mini game to improve your patience level. There are also short inspirational stories, quotes and experiences written by the users which may encourage you.
But if you are experiencing symptoms like constant worrying, sleeplessness, unexplained emotional changes, losing interest in everything and feeling of worthlessness or helplessness, for 3 weeks or more, you should make an appointment to see a counselor or a psychologist. Anxiety disorders are amongst the most common mental health issues but are treatable . Stay Happy, stay stressfree and follow WeHeal.

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